Artists need friends. ALL creative people need friends. While we all need friends in our life, artist friendships are especially important in developing a support network and helping you bring out the best in yourself. When you can shine it creates an environment where you are then comfortable introducing new art out into the world.
I’m passionate about relationships and especially about friendship. Here are my thoughts about artist friendships in particular.
Okay, so what if you aren’t an artist? Here are five types of friends you need no matter who you are or what you do for a living.
5 Types of Friends Everyone Needs
Since we can only really handle a certain number of friends, it pays to make sure you’re with the right ones for you. Generally, there are five types of friends that can help you feel good about life and be a better person. These are people that will keep things interesting, help you through rough times, and make your world a much better place to be.
The One Who Has a Completely Different Worldview
It’d be boring if all your friends were exactly like you. What you really need is someone who will shake things up occasionally by getting you to think of things a little differently. When you lack a variety of friends in your life you won’t even know the things you don’t know. In order to grow emotionally you sometimes need a push, and that can come in the form of a friend who simply utters an opinion different than you.
It’s one thing to go on Facebook or Twitter and see opposing viewpoints from people you don’t know, and another to sit and listen to things from a friend’s perspective. When you have a friend in your life that you care about, your ability to see things from their point of view will be easier than someone randomly spouting off on social media.
Friends who challenge your ideas don’t necessarily change your mind on things, but they help you be the best version of yourself. For instance, understanding how a friend might view the way you share your religion or politics may help you present your ideas in a more balanced, clearer manner. It will help you understand your own points of view and thus, how you come off to the rest of the world.
Connectors are people who are naturally good with people. They make friends easily and best of all for you, they like introducing new friends to each other. These are the folks who are having the parties, are actively involved in groups, and are probably the one to pick up the phone and invite you out.
To keep a connector in your life, make sure you don’t take them for granted. Their magnanimous spirits can make you feel like you can sit back and coast while your friend does all the work (is always the first one to call, is the one who thinks of the plans for everyone, keeps tabs on the other friends to keep everyone informed) but they need your caring and support, also.
The One Who Lives Close By
Sure, we can keep in touch with friends who are far away, but there is a good reason why it’s still hard when your bestie moves away. You need friends who are nearby, who you can see in person and share some tears or a laugh followed by a hug. You need in-person contact.
There are some conversations that just aren’t good over the phone or via text. Some news which is too special to announce on social media. You need people there, in your corner who will (literally) walk through the celebrations and hardships with you.
The One Who Gets Your Sense of Humor
The friend who laughs with you is probably the one you also vent to, the one you call when you have last minute tickets somewhere, or when things are getting tense in your personal life and you just need to put it all in perspective.
Also, the friend who knows when you’re kidding or just being sarcastic is gold. There’s nothing worse than you making a joke and having a friend go, “Are you serious?” Ugh. You need a friend who not only gets your sense of humor but shares it as well.
The Friend Who Is Positive and Mature
There is a difference between being positive and being fake. Someone who is positive in nature isn’t necessarily giggly and silly, but rather has a balanced view of life and chooses to see the good. They are realistic, not Pollyanna. Have you ever tried to tell a person something rough you’re struggling with and have them reply with some ridiculously happy thought in return? That’s not the kind of a friend you need.
There is a big difference between someone who can’t hear bad things and someone who can patiently listen to you explain a negative circumstance and offer you a positive, hopeful message you can build on from that point forward. These people are giving of their emotions and keepers in the friend department. Hold on to them.