To some, it’s obvious why I write about my upbringing.  The early years of my life were sad ones, and the story could have ended there, but God had different plans.

He came to me so young that I don’t know what it’s like to not have Him in my life, and that has made all the difference. I can’t imagine where I’d be without God.

I write about my background because so many of you have had similar experiences. Given away for adoption. Then, an abusive, alcoholic parent, lots of lies, lots of hitting and worse, lots of being told you weren’t good enough from even before you could walk.

Lots of you tell me about your childhoods, and how it has affected your adulthoods. I write about my childhood because I want you to know there is a way out of that ugly world of addiction and abuse. I write because those painful years are behind me, and God has given me a path to find happiness, have a balanced view of myself, and have solid, loving relationships.

I write about things because there are plenty of people who will want you to keep your story quiet. Whether it’s because they feel guilty about their own actions or because they don’t believe you (denial is a very strong thing in families touched by alcoholism) they’ll want you to just shut up and take it because that’s what you always did. That’s what feels good to them.

But what’s good for you? Have you resigned yourself to a “less than” kind of life, where you don’t have good friendships or romantic relationships? Where you continually search for bad situations because it feels more “normal” to you than healthy, strong relationships?

You don’t need to settle for anything less than the life God intended for you. Now, don’t get me wrong, things are aren’t always easy. Life is work. But you can work on being happy, or work on being miserable. Which would you rather do?

I write about things because I’m here to tell you that I am not perfect, but God has been patient with me. Where would I be without Him? He’s pulled me out of darkness and given me a whole new world. He can do this with you, too. Trust that you deserve and are worthy of love. Then, open up your heart to God and let Him show you the path to take. It can start right now.