Jealousy is an extremely negative, limiting force. It causes you to focus on other people and worst, it can prevent you from bringing the art and writing and creativity that you were meant to put out in the world.
In this creative entrepreneur world I’ve been living in for the last decade or so, I’ve seen jealousy rear its ugly head time and again. I’ve seen it eat up people, and it’s a shame because you know what? You don’t need to be jealous of others.
As I mention in the video below I do not naturally struggle with jealousy. (I do have other issues, so….)
But really, I’ve always been someone that got excited when I saw others succeed in the same way I wanted to, because their success reminded me that it was possible, that the dream I had was something that was within reach. Their success didn’t mean I wouldn’t also be successful.
Here are my thoughts on jealousy in the art world.
And of course, jealousy isn’t limited to just creative people, either. Even the best of friends can get jealous of each other at times. This is especially true if you’re both going after similar things in life, like relationships, career paths, and personal goals. Jealousy has the power to ruin a friendship if it isn’t kept in check. While you can’t help the way you feel, you can control how you react to a jealous tinge.
Jealous of a Friend?
Some things to keep in mind.
Everyone Has Their Own Path in Life
I believe this so much! Just because a friend got something great, it doesn’t mean that you won’t also down the road.
When you realize that your path in life is unique and unlike anyone else’s, you’ll see that feelings of jealousy are a wasted emotion that just saps your energy. Allowing jealousy to seep too far into your mind and heart will actually take you away from your own happiness.
How’s Your Self-Esteem Doing?
Hello self-esteem issues! I struggle with them, too, and I think they can be a gateway to jealousy. So often when we feel jealous, it’s because we’re doubting ourselves. Even if you and a friend are both trying to lose weight, for example, you wouldn’t feel jealous when your friend hit her target mark if you were confident that you would eventually meet yours as well. You’d be happy for her.
The same is true with work goals, money, or relationships. If you doubt that you’ll have that same kind of success, it’s a sign that you need to work on your self-esteem.
Seeing a Friend Succeed Can Inspire You to Have a Better Life
If jealousy has a purpose at all, it’s to fully open up your eyes to the possibilities in life. Instead of looking at the situation as if your friend has something you don’t, look to the inspiration this person is providing for you. You’ll see that not only is your own goal possible, a new ambition may emerge as a result of your friend’s success.
Acknowledge Jealousy as a Normal Feeling, But Don’t Let It Rule Your Heart
Jealousy is a feeling, just like other negative feelings you may have toward your friend occasionally, like annoyance or anger. Once you know that, you can take that feeling and handle it properly. This is especially important in friendship, where your job is to be happy and supportive of your pal.
Part of the reason friendship can be such a hard thing to maintain is that it challenges us. But guess what? We need to be challenged. We need to step outside our own lives from time to time and cheer for someone else. It helps us get perspective and become more self-aware, and it also reminds us that the world is not all about us.